Well, when you see the object your modeling in real life, does it have gaps between different areas? Is there a gap at the shoulder where the arm attaches to the torso?... no. On the other hand, is there a gap where the hood of a car meets the bumper?... yes
Basically, it depends on what your modeling.
I can't really help you with the lighting... not much of a render-man myself.
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