im from sweden so dont complane about the spellings and the grammar

I just started modeling a head and a problem came up.
First of all and maybe the simplest question: why is there so
many "s" symbols in my model? everytime i drag the model to get
a better shape. another s comes up.
Second question: why is the "control vertex" action not there all the time? for every move i do it dissapears and i have to rightclick on the model and so on to get it back.
Third question: Please teach me some basic shortcuts with the keys.
Thanks for every answer. u doing a great job!
specially the ones who makes the free tutorial movies
